can we not…

*While I normally only write about my internship experiences, I decided to take a break and address a current issue that’s going on.

Throughout the last year, my Facebook newsfeed has been filled with blog posts with titles like “20 things all 20 somethings should be doing” or “How to get the most enjoyment out of being 20 something”. And after about the fourth one I read, I was D O N E. These blogs are so unrealistic to the majority of us 20 somethings. They’re all about making a name for yourself, making new friends, and taking time to get to know yourself and who you truly are. That’s all fine and dandy, but I just spent the last four years of undergrad finding out who I am and I don’t really think that’s going to change just because some blog told me I should spend the rest of this decade of my life reflecting on that.

What these blogs don’t paint a picture of is what’s its really like to be a post grad 20 something and how it’s not always the greatest time in your life. They don’t tell you that you most likely won’t be living near your college friends any more, or even if you are, you all have real jobs now and don’t get to grab icees at 2 in the afternoon or order Dominos at midnight. They don’t tell you how tough it is to move to a new city where you know very few people if anyone at all. They also don’t tell you how much it sucks to be an unpaid intern that the college degree you worked your butt off to get in four years or under will barely pay you more than minimum wage starting out.

What I want is a realistic twenty something blog saying, “This new stage in life can suck sometimes, but it can also be pretty great.” I need to hear that I’m not the only one who ate a bag of candy corn for dinner or that didn’t know how to write a check a month ago. I want someone who hates meeting new people and making new friends just as much as I do but is doing it anyway so that I don’t always feel lonely. I want to know that there are other people out there who hate working out but do it anyway because if you don’t all the mozzarella sticks you get from Sonic will make you gain weight. I want someone to say it’s okay to be single throughout your twenties, because it doesn’t mean you’ll end up a lonely old spinster cat lady (even though I’m half way there with the cat part). And I want someone to say it’s okay to cry when you think about how much you miss your friends and family.

God tells us that never will I leave you and never will I forsake you. It’s comforting during this trying time of grad school, new jobs, new people, and new cities that no matter where you are, Mississippi, Alabama, Florida, or Virginia, that God never changes. The God that my friends and I praised every Sunday and Wednesday in our church in Tuscaloosa is the same one that I pray to every morning in the car on my way to work. He’s the same God that I talk about with friends who are hundreds of miles away and He’s the same God that brings me comfort through this time of my life.

So if you’re a twenty something out there and you’re reading this, I hope you can relate. I hope I’m not the only one out there who’s feeling this way.

Here’s to us, the awkwardly placed middle of the twenty something generation, I think we’re all going to make it!

“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: ‘What? You too? I thought I was the only one.’”

-C.S. Lewis


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